FAQ’s
Nobody is saying this is an easy subject to think about, much less talk about! But what the heck, let’s do it anyway.
What is a celebration of life and how is it different from a traditional funeral?
A celebration of life is a personalized event that honors someone's life in a joyful, uplifting way. Unlike a traditional funeral, which is often somber and ritualized, a celebration of life might include music, food, storytelling, and personal touches that reflect the unique personality of the person being remembered. The Last Party offers creative ideas and prompts to help you plan a life celebration that truly reflects who you are.
Why should I plan my own funeral or end-of-life celebration?
Planning your own farewell can reduce stress for your loved ones, ensure your wishes are honored, and give you peace of mind. It’s also a powerful way to reflect on your life and values. The Last Party walks you through the steps to design your "grand finale" with intention, humor, and heart.
What is a legacy journal or death planner?
A legacy journal is a guided workbook that helps you document your wishes, values, memories, and plans for your end-of-life celebration. It’s not just about logistics — it’s about meaning, storytelling, and leaving behind a final gift for the people you love. The Last Party includes journal prompts, checklists, and creative exercises to help you shape your final goodbye.
Is it normal to feel uncomfortable planning for death?
Totally. Talking about death has long been taboo, but studies show that those who engage in end-of-life planning often feel more empowered and less anxious. The Last Party approaches the topic with warmth, wit, and humanity — making it easier (and even fun) to start the conversation.
Can I plan a themed funeral or goodbye party?
Absolutely. From backyard BBQs and costume parties to jazz brunches and beach bonfires — the sky’s the limit. A themed farewell is a memorable way to reflect your personality and passions. The Last Party gives you permission (and inspiration) to go off-script and make it your own.
What is an ethical will and should I write one?
An ethical will is a non-legal document where you share your values, life lessons, and hopes for future generations. It’s a beautiful way to pass down your wisdom, even after you're gone. Chapter 12 of The Last Party helps you write an ethical will that feels authentic and meaningful.
How do I talk to my family about end-of-life wishes?
It starts with honesty, humor, and timing. Choose a relaxed moment, use a resource like The Last Party as a guide, and focus on how it helps them—not just you. The book includes scripts, prompts, and real-life stories to help make the conversation easier.
Is Your Last Party only for people nearing the end of life?
Not at all. This book is for anyone — at any age — who wants to live intentionally, reflect on their life, and plan a goodbye that matches their story. Whether you're 35 or 85, The Last Party helps you live now while planning ahead.
What makes Your Last Party different from other funeral planning books?
Most end-of-life books are clinical, somber, or spiritual. The Last Party is none of those. It’s practical but playful, heartfelt but never heavy-handed. It treats death planning like what it is: a chance to celebrate life and leave a legacy that feels like you.
Can I use this book to help plan someone else's celebration?
Yes — it’s an excellent tool for caregivers, adult children, hospice workers, and funeral professionals. While the prompts are written to inspire personal reflection, they can just as easily guide conversations and planning for someone you love.