Why Planning for Death Isn’t Morbid—It’s Liberating

Let’s get something out of the way: talking about death makes most people deeply uncomfortable. It’s a conversation we dodge with humor, deflect with superstition, or delay with the old “I’ll deal with it later” promise.

But here’s the truth: planning your own final goodbye is not morbid. It’s one of the most empowering, generous, and surprisingly life-affirming things you can do.

Why We Avoid It

Most of us were raised in cultures where death is treated like a dirty little secret. We sanitize it. We hide from it. We rarely talk about it unless it’s on a death certificate or in a movie. So when someone suggests planning your own memorial, writing a goodbye letter, or—gasp!—choosing your coffin playlist, it feels… icky.

But death isn’t the enemy. Uncertainty is. That’s what keeps families up at night after a loss—guessing what their loved one would’ve wanted. Trying to make decisions while grieving. Wondering if they got it “right.”

Planning = Peace

When you’ve made your choices known—what kind of celebration you want, what legacy you want to leave, what truly matters to you—you give your people the gift of clarity. No awkward arguments. No panicked Pinterest searches. Just peace. That’s powerful.

And here’s the secret bonus: making these decisions can lift you. You realize just how much life you still have to shape. It prompts you to spend your time, energy, and love more intentionally.

Planning your death won’t make it come sooner. But it will make everything leading up to it richer.

Food for Thought : What would peace of mind look like for your family if you left them with clear instructions, joyful memories and a final goodbye that felt just like you?